To be or not to be?*

"A vast sector of modern advertising... does not appeal to reason but to emotion; like any other kind of hypnoid suggestion, it tries to impress its objects emotionally and then make them submit intellectually. "
Erich Fromm

A few days ago I was reading a famous Iranian woman's blog on her ideas about women issues. She was underlying the traditional meanings that a woman can have like being a mother and a good wife and was bringing up some questions like why always a woman’s identity should be interpreted based on her relationship with her children and husband.

Personally, I think that woman’s marriage may have happened based on a superficial and blind love or just the aim of getting married to have a husband. If one interpret marriage as a kind of pure and ultimate friendship between two people, a portion of these two people's identity can be identified and valued in their relationship to each other.
Besides, a great portion of Iran’s population is still consisted of women whose families are not able to support them financially before marriage, their families are not able to send them to English or French classes and they may not have a computer at home to open a blog and start to attract ideas by pretending to be a feminist. When a mother has nothing to give her children to eat; then, a part of her identity can be fulfilled by being able to prepare food for her children.

I really don’t mean that it is any problem to be a divorced woman, but an unsuccessful marriage cannot be generalized to the meanings that a woman can have.

*The title is taken from an article by Eric Fromm