Learning to Listen!
From Zein Ridling:
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They're either speaking or preparing to speak. They're filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people's lives, listening within their own frame of reference.
"Oh, I know exactly how you feel."
"I went through the very same thing. Let me tell you about my experience."
They're constantly projecting their own home movies onto others' behavior. In contrast, Empathic Listening gets inside another person's frame of reference. You look out through it, you see the world the way he or she sees it, you understand how he or she feels. This does not mean that you agree necessarily, simply that you understand his or her point of view.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They're either speaking or preparing to speak. They're filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people's lives, listening within their own frame of reference.
"Oh, I know exactly how you feel."
"I went through the very same thing. Let me tell you about my experience."
They're constantly projecting their own home movies onto others' behavior. In contrast, Empathic Listening gets inside another person's frame of reference. You look out through it, you see the world the way he or she sees it, you understand how he or she feels. This does not mean that you agree necessarily, simply that you understand his or her point of view.
posted by Bahar @ 22:03
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